Nope, no baby yet.
But I have a random question for you!
My own birthday happens to fall between now and the baby’s actual due date. I am very much hoping that this baby does NOT decide to arrive on that day because I personally think it would be a bummer for him. I want his day to be special and let’s face it, one day I will be gone. I don’t want him to be sad on his birthday because he will be remembering me instead?
Others disagree with my viewpoint. (and think I’m being too negative, which makes me laugh because yes, we are all going to die….I cannot avoid that!)
Anyway, what do you think?
Would you want to share your birthday with your child?
Or do you already share the day and how do you celebrate?
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my last child’s birthday is three days before mine. I loved being in the hospital with just him on my birthday…so many sweet moments, and I also had some down time for just me. I don’t mind having our birthdays near each other, at least right now. Maybe it will be easier for him to remember my birthday in the future!
@melissa: thats a great point about getting that time to yourself on your birthday! (although, it’s crazy that we have to go to that extreme, lol!)
I think it doesn’t matter overly much, since the baby’s birthday will always take precedence….
@Heather: oh I agree. Personally, I’m not a big fan of my birthday, because honestly it makes me think of my own mom. Maybe that is why I’m so sensitive about it?
I was due with my third the day before my birthday. I love my birthday so much and didn’t want to share that I asked to be induced a week early. But if you’re not a huge fan of your birthday, I don’t think its a big deal.
@Tonia: I love that you are honest enough to say you didn’t want to share!
I have been begging to get induced early but they are FULL (for elective inductions) until after my birthday, so I have to wait. And now I’m terrified I’m going to go into labor in the middle of target with my kids all over the place. ACK!
I think you have a good point. At first I thought, “What an awesome birthday present!” But after reading your reasons why you wouldn’t want to share your birthday, I agree with you.
My mom and my brother’s daughter share a birthday, one of my best friends and her daughter share a birthday — that being said… I am so glad my daughter did not come early on my birthday. Selfish, maybe. But I really need to have my own celebration every year – and I would feel like it would be hard to do if I were in need of celebrating my daughter as well.
My daughter was born 3 days after my birthday. Now that she’s gone to college, I FINALLY have my birthday back! I really didn’t mind have my birthday overshadowed — since we didn’t have the exact date I got some recognition of my own — but it’s nice not to have to spend it at a bowling alley anymore. At the other end of the life spectrum, I see your point about it being hard on the child when the parent is gone, but it also could make that day that much more of a special time to remember.
@Coco: LOL at the bowling alley. Such a good point…I foresee a lifetime of Chuck E Disease parties. (ugh)
I wouldn’t want to share birthday’s… ironically my dad and his sister were both born on same day (different years) and well there are just some things you dont want to share and bdays are one of them….
and good point on when you’re gone, they’d be sad even more on their bday too…never thought of it that way
Nobody celebrates my bday so it doesn’t really matter…BUT my daughters bday is right before mine and right after christmas and she’s always getting the shaft from people cuz “it’s too close to christmas” so they do nothing for her…so if she had to share a bday it’d be even worse….
I’m for separate bdays!
@Tara Burner: i think mine would probably get ignored, which is fine by me but then they might wonder why mommy never has a birthday? or maybe I’m just over thinking it all?
I wouldn’t want to share either. I think it should be the baby’s own special day.
My daughter and I share a birthday. Both of us think it’s really neat. I hope she doesn’t ever get to the point that she resents it, but I really don’t think she will. To her, it is doubly special because her mommy shares her birthday. I always make sure she has a special day, and I don’t feel slighted in the least.
@Ruth Hill: I would probably have to really down play or ignore that it was also my birthday because I wouldn’t want the other kids to think their day is “less” special because they don’t share it with me? (sigh)
this parenting gig is tough!
Thanks for commenting!
Almost 40 years ago on February 13th, I was born on my grandmothers birthday. I was told for so many years by her that I was the greatest birthday gift that she ever received and we spent every birthday together celebrating in some way – sometimes with the whole family and a cake that said “Happy Birthday Nana & Tracy” and other times we would go out alone to celebrate over dinner and a special dessert decorated with candles. I never once resented sharing my birthday with this amazing woman. Three years ago, a month before our birthday I was there by her side when she passed. I will admit that I always thought about how sad I would be on our birthday when she was gone and it was a tough first year without her, but a few months later, we were surprised to learn that I was pregnant with our fourth child – whom was born on February 13! I was not induced and it was a natural (not c-sectioned) birth. I truly believe that my little birthday pal was sent from a special angel in heaven and look forward to many years of shared celebrations with him!! Congratulations on your pregnancy!
@Tracy: awww, that is a great and very special story! I agree—an angel definitely delivered your baby!
Oooh! This is a tough one. Right now, my birthday is not near anyone else’s in my family. It is very close to the date my dad passed away, which kind of puts a damper on it.
BUT, we have a very large cluster o’ birthdays in January through February that makes it just this side of insane. Between, bro in law on Dec 31, my son on Jan 15th, my sis in law’s on Feb 2nd and my husband’s on Feb 7th and then a week later it’s Valentines, I don’t get to breathe! I completely understand not wanting to share!
I’m with you. My brother was born on my grandfather’s birthday. It was fun when we were kids but now he misses him on his birthday.
My mom, my sister, and my sister’s daughter all share the same birthday (not planned that way either). My birthday is actually 3 days before theirs also. I think they all feel like it’s kind of a special day, but guess I never really asked them. I always feel kind of left out though
My brother and I share a birthday and I’ve always liked it. Not sure if I would have liked it if it were my mom tho’. I probably wouldn’t have minded. I’m not one to get super excited about my birthday.
People are funny about death. I don’t find it morbid at all. It’s true death is one thing we ALL have in common.
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