No, this isn’t a post about Tiger Woods.
This is about me and my feelings toward my husband. (Hi honey, you might not want to read any further!)
Three weeks before baby #3 was born, my husband decided to sign up with a personal trainer. First, a little background. My husband has always HATED all forms of exercise. He never liked coming to my spinning classes and refused all of my attempts to personal train him myself. So I was a little shocked when he just went out and signed up (at the gym that I wanted to join) to meet with a personal trainer three times per week.
Here are 10 emotions/thoughts that immediately went through my head, in no particular order:
Thought #1: “You JERK! I am HUGELY pregnant and you decide that NOW is the time you want to make a life change? Thanks for rubbing it in my face that I cannot exercise right now.”
Thought #2: “Your timing absolutely sucks. We are about to have another child and you are going to spend even more time out of the house? How about offering to stay home a bit more and help me out?”
Thought #3: “I am very proud of you. Finally you are putting your health first and I look forward to seeing the results!”
Thought #4: “If you dare to complain to me that you are tired, sore, or injured I might have to kill you.”
Thought #5: “Please tell me more about the jump squats, push ups, and intervals you are doing with your trainer. I’d love to hear more about it. At the same time, why don’t you tell me how great it feels to sleep all night long?!” (yes, this is sarcasm!)
Thought #6: “Honestly, I love to hear about all the fun things you are doing with your trainer. I hope he makes you do more intervals on the treadmill because I think you need more cardio and less strength training right now”
Thought #7: “I really hope you stick with this because you will FEEL so much better and have so much more energy! Go husband!”
Thought #8: “I really hope that Santa brings me some personal training sessions and more importantly, some childcare, so I can actually go!”
Thought #9: “Please do not start talking about what “your trainer says…”. I’m pretty sure I’ve said those same things to you over the past ten years and you haven’t listened!”
Thought #10: “I really hope that someday we can run a race together. Just don’t run faster than me!
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December 16th, 2009 at 7:16 am 1
sounds like some LISA TIME is needed.
STAT.
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December 16th, 2009 at 9:16 am 2
I so can relate to EVERY SINGLE THOUGHT you had!!! Hope you get some well-deserved “me time” soon and that you’ll have fun workout dates with the husband in the future!
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December 16th, 2009 at 9:37 am 3
Awesome post! I absolutely love number 10. Probably because I have this thought all the time. I wish my hubs would work out more, but not at the gym (unless it’s his lunch break). He can workout at night with me after the baby is off to sleep.
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December 16th, 2009 at 12:34 pm 4
Love it! I can see why you have mixed emotions about hubby getting a trainer. I have a toddler and know how busy he keeps me, especially when I think back to when he was an infant…there was no “me” time!
I am a SAHM so when my hubby gets home from work and goes for a run, I also have mixed emotions. I have been in toddler-land all day long and could use a 5 minute break, but don’t get it until my son goes to bed.
For 7 months,I have been in a workout routine of using exercise dvds (working out for an hour at least 4x per week) while my son naps during the day. I feel 100 times better now that all the baby weight is gone and I have energy to keep up w/ my toddler.
Good luck!
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December 16th, 2009 at 12:59 pm 5
Yep! I would think those things too. I’ve been dying for my hubby to workout. I even asked him to do Yoga with me on the weekends. He won’t! He is a former football player, and one day he retorted, “I was tortured when training for football . . . you never lived my life.” I backed off.
I exercise at home. As much as I would love to go to a gym, it isn’t possible with 3 kids and full time out-of-house employment. I would love a personal trainer, but he/she must come to my house to make it work, and that ain’t happenin’.
You will get back to it soon. You should be a bit more mobile/active now, unless you are waiting for the post-partum visit?
December 16th, 2009 at 2:13 pm 6
Yes yes and yes. It’s funny how men seem to want to do something contructive or healthy that takes them out of the house once their presence and help is desperately needed. I am not man bashing, but the timing is suspicious.
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December 16th, 2009 at 5:17 pm 7
All of which are perfectly valid thoughts!!
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December 16th, 2009 at 7:48 pm 8
I giggled much. Well hopefully now he will realize what a great resource he has at home:) Hope you are finding some wa to get some rest now!
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December 16th, 2009 at 11:26 pm 9
An excellent way to help in fat loss while weight training is to super hydrate with ice cold water. This process will help burn fat in that drinking a gallon of water within a 14 hour period.
Since it takes energy to bring the ice cold water to core temperature as it is consumed , calories will be burned off in this process. 1 gallon of ice water requires 123 calories of heat energy to warm it to core body temp.
Also since the liver’s main function is to metabolize stored fat into usable energy, it could be very well minimized if the kidney function is hampered by dehydration calling on the liver to flush out the stored fat needed to metabolize into this energy.
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December 17th, 2009 at 8:49 am 10
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December 17th, 2009 at 11:12 am 11
I wanted to comment on this yesterday but my computer is broken…using hubby’s laptop today!
RUDE! I would feel the same way!
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December 17th, 2009 at 3:29 pm 12
I am SOOOOOOO with you!!!!! Men just don’t get it. ‘Cause they don’t carry the baby, deliver, and breastfeed, and, oh yeah, TAKE ACRE OF THE BABY 24/7, they Just. Don’t. Understand!
December 17th, 2009 at 4:08 pm 13
Snicker
Good post — true and yet still funny. I think he should read it
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December 19th, 2009 at 7:30 pm 14
Ha, ha, ha!! Too funny. I feel for you. Hopefully you’ll be getting back in shape with him really soon.
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December 20th, 2009 at 2:08 am 15
Right there with you girl! If my husband were to go to the gym on his own etc I would have a heart attack and then be depressed…
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December 22nd, 2009 at 3:05 am 16
Hi Lisa!
Y’know, all the timing and resentment aside, which I totally GET (Ohhhh, I get it BIG TIME with regard to how somehow many husbands get to have that extra time for working out, sleeping, BATHING REGULARLY), there is something about having that impartial person training or teaching you. Maybe impartial is not the right word. More like a person where there is no emotional attachment on your part, training or teaching you? So, on that one part, I think it’s in no way about you, but about him–like one time P tried to teach me to ski, and though he told me the right things, I took a lot of it as criticism and got frustrated. Now, my husband is not a ski instructor, but I have seen that same scenario play out in a lot of ways with a lot of people.
However, I totally get the timing and ‘no fair!’ part. Your baby is tiny and you are healing. You’ll get there, and be back where you want to be.
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