Food pushers, couch potatoes, and more

Charlotte had a great post this week about sabotage and the various reasons why we might not be supportive to friends & family in their efforts to live a fit lifestyle. This post really hit home with me as I feel like there are several saboteurs in my life. (Many of them are probably reading this blog, so please leave me a comment to say “hi” if you recognize yourself, okay?)

  1. Food pushers: these are people that just cannot understand why you do not want to eat potato skins or mozzarella sticks as an appetizer. They want you to help devour the Bloomin’ Onion while disregarding the fact that it has 2300 calories and 134 grams of fat! They are always telling you to get seconds or thirds, despite repeating over and over that you are full.
    The food pushers love food, but only the unhealthy kind. How about greeting us with a plateful of fruit instead of a pile of nachos the next time we come to your house? This way, I won’t have to decline and you won’t feel slighted. (and a note to the brownie maker– I do appreciate a good brownie, but please do not leave me with a freshly baked batch when you are leaving town for a week. Thanks!)
  2. The couch potatoes: They think exercise is a dirty word. They will go out of their way to sabotage your workout and make you feel bad for wanting to even exercise in the first place. Someone actually told me that I am endangering my health because I like to exercise? What?!
    The couch potatoes are just that. They sit on the couch and tell you how awful they feel, yet they do nothing to change it. They are saving you a spot on that sofa because misery loves company. No thanks, I’d rather enjoy a good walk than sit in front of the TV all day/night long.
  3. The food police: they track every morsel of food that you eat and comment on everything. Generally, they are always on a diet themselves and want you to join them in their hunger. It is about a healthy lifestyle people. I can eat a slice of birthday cake and enjoy it. Please do not make me feel self conscious about it by exclaiming “Lisa is eating cake?!”
    Please do not comment on items that might be in my grocery cart either. I am not perfect, I enjoy a good snack every now and then and don’t need YOU pointing out the fact that I am not making the healthiest choices. Again, I am human and will need years of therapy to make up for comments from the food police.
  4. The skeptics: these are the people that are suspicious of everything you do. If you suddenly pass on seconds or dessert, you are labeled with an eating disorder. If you like to get up early to exercise, you are considered a freak. And my new personal favorite–being selfish. I have been accused of being selfish because I take time away from my family to exercise. Silly me, I thought I was adding years to my life by being active!

What about you gang, do you have any saboteurs in your life?


  1. says

    My family is always the (and I tease them about it so there’s no airing o’dirty laundry here :))


    (see: during the FAT FREE FAD I started eating a lot of unsaturated fats in the form of the then newish balance bars. they mocked. they called me crazy. they pushed fat free brownies toward me with abandon. now? my mom is strungoutaddicted to balance bars —-as of last year :))

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  2. says

    Thanks for the shout-out Lisa! You are so right about people commenting on what we do/don’t eat. I don’t understand what makes people think they have the right to comment on anyone’s food choices. I hate it when people give me crap about skipping out on the buffet just as much as I hate it when people make fun of the overweight for what they’re eating. When will people get that food is intensely personal and they’re not helping with the running commentary?

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  3. says

    love it…all of these people are in my life. some are slashes – foodpusher/food police, couch potato/food police, skeptic/foodpusher. and i’m the one with the problem? sheesh!

  4. says

    I totally agree with you! Hubby’s parents think exercise is moving from the coach to the fridge and smoke on the way…On thing they don’t do is push food on me. Smokers can’t taste their food, so, that is not a problem!!

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  5. BK says

    OMG.. I have a few of these in my life..!!! I just got rid of the one who claimed that I was “losing my butt” from exercising and I wasn’t as sexy anymore.. LOL.. I’ve lost a lot of things but MY BUTT isn’t going anywhere!!!! hahahaaaa FABULOUS POST!

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  6. Sagan says

    Yep, know them all… its frustrating! But as time goes on and people see that I’m still trying to be healthy, most of them have become more understanding and stop with the snide comments and all. Which is a definite relief.

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  7. Katrina says

    The point about being selfish– you’re also exercising to feel good, right? I feel really good and am much happier and a better mom overall when I exercise and feel highly irritated when I don’t get at least a .5 hour most days to workout or run. Remember you have to give to yourself in order to give to others (namely to those you love/need you).

  8. says

    The ones I’ve mostly dealt with are the Food Pushers and Skeptics. Their actions really bothered me at first, but now I take it with a grain of salt (not literally, mind you). 😉 I don’t try to explain myself to them. If they are truly interested in why I want to eat clean and exercise, then I will gladly tell them.

    I think many times these folks say and do what they do is perhaps out of guilt? Nit-pick someone else so they take the spotlight off of themselves??

    Good point about the being selfish part. You could turn that around: NOT exercising is selfish. That gives it a whole, new meaning.

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  9. says

    What a great post!

    I’m really lucky in that my family and friends have never really messed with my head in terms of what I eat or why. It really never occurred to me how destructive this sort of thing could be!

    It’s fascinating and disturbing to discover how often people make it their own business to comment on what other people eat or do. Ick!

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  10. Nadine says

    I absolute LOVE this! I’ve dealt with all of them. I think it’s jealousy. They want to do it, but they’re not ready to limit themselves. Yes, you can have cake. But, you can’t have cake AND blooming onion in the same day or the same meal. One or the other.

    When I was working, I had a woman who was in her 50s or 60s, examine everything I ate. If I had a bran muffin for breakfast, how could I eat that? If I had pizza for lunch, how could I eat that? Her food for the day was a banana and a yogurt. If she ate more than that, she would gain weight. She couldn’t figure out how I’d lost so much eating the way I was. Heaven forbid I bought jerk chicken, plantains, and cabbage for lunch! She’d go into food shock!

    Thanks for the laugh.

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  11. DM says

    Ok, I guess I could be several of these people. I will stop making brownies before my trips. :(

  12. says

    What’s surprised me, reading these comments, was how many people could relate to all of these categories! These people are more common than we think.

    And like DM, I’m going to make an effort to make sure I’m not acting this way towards anyone else! (Or to myself. You hear enough negative talk, after a while the little voice in the back of your head starts to talk negatively too.)

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  13. workoutmommyworkoutmommy says

    merry–It is amazing how common these people are in most of our lives!

    I am happy to report that many of the people I was specifically referring to have said they would try to reform their ways from now on. I am hopeful the food pushers, potatoes, food police, and skeptics will be gone!

  14. says

    I definitely have some food pushers in my life – There’s one woman whom I love dearly, and is like a grandma to my daughter. Unfortunately, when we eat at their home (probably once a week or more) she is always asking/telling us to “finish” stuff, so there aren’t leftovers. Just eat that one slice of pizza, just have those last few pancakes… It is indeed frustrating.

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  15. says

    I don’t have too many non-supportive people (though there is a skeptic at work who always has to comment on what I’m making for myself – “you mean, you’re just having TOAST for a snack?”). My mother, however, is one of those people who thinks she knows everything, that her way is the best. So if I choose to buy a package of cookies at the grocery store I get the “your diet is sooo horrible” look. Regardless how much I exercise or how fit I am. Blech.

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  16. Gena says

    Very nice post!

    My coworkers are the couch potatoes and the skeptics. They don’t really work out, then tell me that my workout schedule is over the top, and training for a marathon is bad for you.

    What gets me the most though, is that they are highly suspicious of what I eat and what I do. If we do compare our daily exercise, they think I’m lying about running 6 or 7 miles. If I don’t eat a huge lunch, they think I must be trying to lose weight or that I’m borderline eating disorder (when I’m just not that hungry!). And I can’t explain to them my food and exercise philosophy, because they don’t want to hear it.

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  17. fspotting says

    I completely identify with this. A friend of mine asked me if I had an eating disorder because I have lost 20 pounds in about 2 months and I can’t even describe how offended I was. It’s partly because I actually do have a friend with an eating disorder and to be compared to her was upsetting, but I just felt like the implication that she thought there was NO way I could have been so successful without cheating by starving myself. I couldn’t even defend myself — when I tried to tell her what I’d eaten, she got the most disbelieving look on her face. My weight loss has really brought out an ugly side to her — funny how this is coincidentally happening as I’m getting closer to being as thin as she is.

    I hate hearing from people that I have lost enough weight because they are ALWAYS much thinner than I am. I think this ‘liking the fat friend’ business really is true. I still have to lose another 5 pounds to be at the absolute HIGH end of a healthy BMI — how can I have lost enough weight?!